Not long ago, I read Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain. I had many a-ha! moments while reading, but one of the most significant takeaways was this: being an introvert – being quiet – isn’t a flaw that needs to be fixed, that needs to be cured.
Thanks, in part, to Susan Cain’s book, I have learned to appreciate the fact that I’m an introvert. I’ve become comfortable with my preference for quietly observing, letting others have the floor, waiting until the right moment to speak. I’ve gained an appreciation of my talent for connecting words and actions and people, noticing little things that matter, recognizing possibilities and potential. I now recognize that choosing not to speak can sometimes be more powerful than voicing my opinion, that staying silent doesn’t automatically diminish my perspective or limit my potential.
In a world that tends to notice and reward extroverts, I’ve come to value my unique gifts as an introvert. I no longer find it necessary to apologize for being quiet.
I’ve also learned to be comfortable with the ways in which I like to manage and process my feelings – which brings me to today’s cuppa.
Sometimes, talking to my dog is a better option than talking to other people. That doesn’t mean that I don’t have good people in my life to talk to, that I don’t enjoy sharing conversations with my family and friends. It’s not representative of a flaw in my human relationships. It just means that, on occasion, I prefer the accepting, understanding, you’re the most perfect person ever in the whole world everything you say and do is perfect type of love that dogs are especially good at providing.
Mollie doesn’t require details or action items. She doesn’t care if I forget the punchline of a joke. She doesn’t need to tell her side of the story. She’ll stay engaged even if what I’m saying makes no sense or is contradictory to what I said yesterday. Most importantly, she doesn’t even care whether I actually do any talking. Sometimes, Mollie is a Quiet Girl’s best friend.
Since she doesn’t drink coffee, I can’t share today’s cuppa with her. I’ll give her a special doggie treat instead. And then we will sit on the couch, in the morning stillness, and talk – or not talk – together.